aeryck's quote: 'I have found over the years being warm and genuine and letting them find a confidant is of far more use'
Zoo you are selectively manipulating the discussion, by only quoting parts that agree with how you would like this discussion to go.
In 1983, I met a very wonderful person, they impressed me with their ability to show warmth and affection, to be curteous and polite, to spread friendliness and understanding. It was the shield they used, to keep the prying eyes out of the privacy in a male dominated environment, where very quickly if you were found to be gay, you would be crushed and eventually pushed out into the market insearch of another job. This person loved their job deeply, and was dedicated and loyal and I loved serving under them. I was even invited home and there for the first time I discovered that my friend was infact gay. They lived together and shared a nice big warm double bed, they were happy and had the most beautiful apartment. They argued like any other couple might and though they were extremely different they appeared to be happy. I would not even have known this, if I had not been invited home. I did not pry and they felt confident to trust me with the sum of their lives.
I continued my freindship with this person for a number and sadly eventually they moved on to another job with better pay, good for them and better job prospect. Sure I told them about Jesus and how much he loves them and would long to be a part of their lives, for me it is as natural as it is for a bird to fly or for you to desire to act indifferent. I am just trying to figure you in the senario, if there was anyone who might have played the role you have done here. Yes, I do know one person like this.
Feel at liberty to correct me if you wish, I am a little in the dark as to the true nature and the object of your thread. It seems a little simplistic, let me confuse you further, though I hope that is not the case.
Remember not to edit quote me again please. Some bloggs you cannot do that, you have to respond to what the person said, not to just what you want, that would be in most ....[already said]...
This person is a musician, and not really a good one. Having been divorced due ot infidelity, they are very, very religious and if a joke about homosexuality was told like yours above, the line would be very strong....God hates homosexuals!....which I must OVEREMPHASIZE for those who are Christian fundamentalists, GOD DOES NOT HATE HOMOSEXUALS OR GAY OR LESBIANS, that is a very unChristian thing to say, or even think. God hates what we conceal in our hearts. You might get someone who is gay, not involved with anyone, living with their gayness, if that is the wrong word please forgive me. Living with their gayness and loving God. He is the great doctor of the human soul and personality, and as such he has made us the way we are, not child living or having lived or soon to live will grow and develop without genuine self esteem, that simply means being loved and accepted. Being indifferent is hardly the sort of position you want to be in, it might be misconstrued as some sort of sexual ambivalence. Maybe not, but still I do believe it is nice to just be loving to all people, gay or lesbian or bi-sexual people long to just be accepted for themselves.
It seems a little hazy though Zoo, however if you feel this way, then I have badgered you unduly and I wish you well in befriending as many people from the many different dynamics that this life has to offer. I wonder why you bagged the term 'homosexuals' like 'white' 'black' 'fat' 'jesus freaks' 'homos' - no matter how you look at it, there has to be a point of getting out of that box way of seeing people, after all people are all one blood.U2 .
