Horrible Mother

Some People Don't Deserve to Have Children!

from JoeUser Forums
I am not generally the type of person to pick a fight or get into other people's business, but today I almost had my first fistfight! The reason...a mother was going to leave her 8 year-old child on the front porch of the apartment complex that I live in at 10:00 at night. Mind you that I live in Lorain, Ohio a place not known for its low crime rate to say the least, plus I live in the somewhat "ghetto" part of town. My part in this is that her fiance is the best friend of my boyfriend. I have seen how this "woman" treats her child. It's deplorable. She berates the poor thing all the time. The poor child doesn't even know who her father is because her mother won't tell her, and it's not to protect her it's because this woman is so nuts in the head that the childs father left her because of it. Anyways, the fiance was visiting another friend of ours in the apartment building and the woman...well call her crazy bitch....came over because she wanted him to come home and babysit so she could leave the house. Being that he wasn't ready to leave and he watchs the girl all the time, he said no and told her to leave. I heard her screaming and telling her daughter to sit on the porch. I went outside to see what was up and when I saw that little girl sitting on the porch and her mother getting into the car I lost it. I told the little girl to go to my apartment and her mother told me, "No, she's staying there till he brings his ass downstairs to get her." I tried to reason with her and say that I would keep an eye on her. She refused saying that she wanted to teach him a lesson. I asked her how, by getting your daughter kidnapped or worse? I couldn't believe what this woman was planning on doing! I finally told her she was fucking crazy and I was calling the cops. She comes up to the porch yanks the poor girl up by her arm and drags her to the car and literally throws her in. She peals out and almost hits another car. Part of me wants to stay out of it but another part of me thinks I should call child protection services. I am not a mother but I still know that you don't treat a child like that. It's a child not a pawn in one of the sick little mind games she always seem to play. I would appreciate some feedback on this. I am not sure what I should do.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
wow that is full on -- if i were in your shoes i'd probably be conjuring up plans to wrest that little girl from her mother and raise her myself. it makes me want to cry when i hear stories like that or see that sort of thing happening to kids because i've seen the result of it: once the kids grow up, the sort of people they become. and you know that if they'd just been raised by a loving parent or parents or given half the chances other people get they'd be happier and successful people. i don't know what you do hey.

it's hard considering that your boyfriend's mate is this woman's fiance but maybe you should consider calling the authorities after all. it certainly sounds like this mother isn't in a fit state of mind to be raising a child.

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Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
Call Child Protective Services. Call them over and over if you have to.
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
I would appreciate some feedback on this. I am not sure what I should do.


I would call CPS this time, and every other time you see/hear something that isn't right. That little girl needs someone to look out for her....let it be you.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm gonna get a little bit controversial here...

Anger is usually a product of confused emotion. I feel it's probable this woman does need help, but I would encourage you to find ways to help the mother as well. CPS is a possible outlet, but I don't feel you should necessarily consider it your first resort, but rather see if you can suck up and try to become a friend to this woman. I know her behavior appalls you, as it appalls me, but I believe we need to learn to love and be healers. This woman is obviously in a lot of pain; whether she lets you in to be a part of it or not, I don't know. But, as you did solicit opinions, I would suggest you try. If you can become a friend, perhaps you can gently show her ways of dealing with her frustrations that aren't abusive...and she can grow as a person through it, and you will ultimately feel better, as you will have helped two people instead of just one.

That being said, CPS in this case is a legitimate resource. While I wouldn't suggest using it willy-nilly (as, through over 30 years of experience with them, I've come to loathe them), You have to do what you have to do. Be as complete with the facts as you can; without facts they can't legitimately initiate an investigation. And most of all, do not feel guilty if you have to call; you are helping the child. My greatest fear, though, is because you are so close to the situation, there will likely be some broken relationships if this course is pursued.

That's my two cents...take it for what it's worth.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
Well here's an update guys. The fiance broke off the engagement because of what happened. Which I know is good for him because she was crazy with him too. But now I fear even more for the girl because he won't be around to step in like before.
but rather see if you can suck up and try to become a friend to this woman.

for about 6 months I made an attempt to befriend this woman because I felt bad for her. I would invite her over and spend time with her and her child but one day she decided that I was in on some plot to make her fiance break up with her. (My BF and his other friends hate this woman and don't think their friend should be with her but these guys have the organizational skills of a monkey so I highly doubt there was a plot of any kind). So I distanced myself from her but I was still civil whenever we ran into each other.
Being that today is sunday I guess I will see if I can get ahold of someone from CPS tommorrow. I hope everything works out.
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
for about 6 months I made an attempt to befriend this woman because I felt bad for her. I would invite her over and spend time with her and her child but one day she decided that I was in on some plot to make her fiance break up with her.


Well, then, you can honestly say you've tried...I commend you for that. You should not feel guilty at all about taking legal recourse, then.