How Long Since You Got Laid?

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Jo Ann and I split up in June of 2004. We had been together for about 7 years. We didn't split up due to any major fault or argument. Basically she wanted to get married and I didn't. That was pretty much it. I was married once and didn't like it. I've always subscribed to the philosophy that if a dog bites you once you don't go back and pet it again.

I have never been the type to go for the one night stand thing. On that account I've always agreed with Groucho Marx when he said that I would never belong to any club that would have someone like me as a member, Any woman who would sleep with me after just meeting me isn't worth sleeping with.

So, I haven't been laid in roughly 3 years. Yeah, that's a long time. But I am free of any of those nasty and sometimes deadly social diseases. I've had plenty of opportunities. Living on the road they present themselves pretty regularly. But for me it's more than a physical thing.

There's a lot of emotional stuff that goes along with it. And relationship stuff. I think that's the main thing that holds me off. Emotional relationships are far more trouble than they're worth. I like to keep my life as simple as possible and those relationships complicate things far more than I like.

Maybe I should have been a priest.
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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
[/quote]Emotional relationships are far more trouble than they're worth[/quote]

I believe the opposite. I thrive on the emotional content of my life. Sure, in some ways, I like to keep things as simple as possible too. But I can't imagine NOT being married to Toni. She and I are just so bloody good together, even if I do say so myself.

Three years is a heck of a long time to not have been laid, though.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top

[/quote]Emotional relationships are far more trouble than they're worth[/quote]

I believe the opposite. I thrive on the emotional content of my life. Sure, in some ways, I like to keep things as simple as possible too. But I can't imagine NOT being married to Toni. She and I are just so bloody good together, even if I do say so myself.


To each his own. I seem to recall thinking much the same way at one time. But everyone is different. The term "lone wolf" was coined for a reason.

Three years is a heck of a long time to not have been laid, though.


No argument here.
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
4 months on the 27th. Heh.

I think I would be sad if I lived like you because I need companionship. I don't make a whole lot of friends. I mean, I get along well with most people, but I don't have a deep connection with many. I like being married and having someone to be close to and share life with even if it can be a lot of trouble.

But I also think you're smart for recognizing and respecting your own needs instead of trying to force yourself into something unsatisfying just because a lot of other people can't relate to it and might view it negatively.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
I think I would be sad if I lived like you because I need companionship


That's the thing really. I enjoy other people and have a good time with them, but I don't have that need for companionship that so many seem to have. I am very content being on my own, doing as I please when I please and not having to worry about the feelings of someone else.

Of course the whole getting laid thing is another story
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
But everyone is different


And more power to those who recognise this, I say.

Being a lone wolf would make things, erm, harder, I would imagine (pun not intended).
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
On that account I've always agreed with Groucho Marx when he said that I would never belong to any club that would have someone like me as a member, Any woman who would sleep with me after just meeting me isn't worth sleeping with.

That is so crazy because I not only thought the same thing I used the same line. I told family and friends I wouldn't want to date anyone who would date me.

To each his own. I seem to recall thinking much the same way at one time. But everyone is different.

Exactly. If you're happy then who gives a damn when the last time you were laid.

Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top
As someone who has always been a "relationship" guy, I feel ya. Relationships are complicated, but sex without any emotional connection just feels worthless, probably because it is. At this point in my young career, I still feel the benefits outweigh the pitfalls, and I've been lucky enough to have found women who keep my faith alive, all the while maintaining me sufficiently laid.

To answer your question, though, 3 months in about another week.

I like being married and having someone to be close to and share life with even if it can be a lot of trouble.


I'm not married, but I'm like you in that I thrive on the closeness that two people share when they are in love. I'm a guy, though, so I get made fun of for it.

But I also think you're smart for recognizing and respecting your own needs


This, imo, is a hell of a lot harder than anything one could face in a relationship.
Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
How Long Since You Got Laid?


When May rolls around, 8 years.

Reply #9 from JoeUser Forums Top
I dont kiss and tell, but recent.  But I do agree about one night stands.  I cant do it, not because of STDs, but because I have to feel something for my partner.
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
emotional relationships don't have to equal big dramas. Some people think so and can't have a relationship without it overflowing and getting out of control. I'm not saying you are one of those, but I think it's easy to mix up the two.
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
I had someone comment on our love of travel that I should have travelled before I had kids.

My response was quick, "well then, who would I have to share it with?"

I love people, but I love my close familiar group.
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top

But everyone is different


And more power to those who recognise this, I say.

Being a lone wolf would make things, erm, harder, I would imagine (pun not intended).


I don't know, for me at least it makes life a lot more simple.
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top

On that account I've always agreed with Groucho Marx when he said that I would never belong to any club that would have someone like me as a member, Any woman who would sleep with me after just meeting me isn't worth sleeping with.

That is so crazy because I not only thought the same thing I used the same line. I told family and friends I wouldn't want to date anyone who would date me.

To each his own. I seem to recall thinking much the same way at one time. But everyone is different.

Exactly. If you're happy then who gives a damn when the last time you were laid.




We all have to live the way that works for us I suppose.
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm not married, but I'm like you in that I thrive on the closeness that two people share when they are in love. I'm a guy, though, so I get made fun of for it.


No need to make fun of that. That's just how some folks are wired. More power to you.
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top

How Long Since You Got Laid?




When May rolls around, 8 years.






You have me beat.
Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top

I dont kiss and tell, but recent.  But I do agree about one night stands.  I cant do it, not because of STDs, but because I have to feel something for my partner.


That's exactly how I feel about it as well.
Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top

emotional relationships don't have to equal big dramas. Some people think so and can't have a relationship without it overflowing and getting out of control. I'm not saying you are one of those, but I think it's easy to mix up the two.


It really isn't about drama. It's more just...complications that come with a relationship.
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top

about ten minutes


Ok
Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
3 months and a few days... of course, the last relationship was so full of drama, that I'm ok taking some time off.

I don't do the "one night stand" thing, but I have been a friend with benefits. That worked pretty well for us, but only because we were able to keep emotion out of it. Neither of us was upset if the other had a date, or started a relationship. We just changed to friends and dropped the benefits. It was fun, but I really do prefer having some feeling with my sex.
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
I'm not telling but my wife of 35 years, and I love a cuddle!
Reply #22 from JoeUser Forums Top
8 years, 3 years, 3 mths, four...you guys are truly wonderful in that you stick to your beliefs and not get carried away with just getting physical for the sake of it! Congrats and good for you!

For me the emotional part of it is important too. I am married as you all know, but prior to being married I didn't get intimate with anyone because I chose not to. Being 'connected' mentally is important to me as much as being physically in tune.


As for when was the last time, ask me again tomorrow!! [I had visitors so no hanky panky!] (I know, TMI, TMI...I digress!}
Reply #23 from JoeUser Forums Top
I don't do the "one night stand" thing, but I have been a friend with benefits.


I've had a couple of those in the past.
Reply #24 from JoeUser Forums Top

I'm not telling but my wife of 35 years, and I love a cuddle!


Nuttin wrong with that.
Reply #25 from JoeUser Forums Top
As for when was the last time, ask me again tomorrow!! [I had visitors so no hanky panky!] (I know, TMI, TMI...I digress!}