Replacing Your Wedding Ring

from JoeUser Forums

I am interested in others' views on replacing one's wedding ring.  I am personally very old fashioned and sentimental.  I can't imagine "upgrading" my wedding set.  Sure, my husband could now afford to pretty much get me any kind of ring I would want.  I still want the one he gave me when he asked me to marry him.

To me it is a reminder of where we started.  It reminds me of the dreams we had then and how far we have come together.  I thought it was beautiful then and I think it is beautiful now even if perhaps for different reasons.

I know many who have upgraded their rings though.  I certainly have no reason to judge anyone else.  I'm just interested in different perspectives.

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Reply #1 from JoeUser Forums Top
We talked about it a few years ago. What we have was not expensive - but - I wouldn't have spent much more anyway. He was surprised that I didn't want a different one. I told him there so many other things we could spend the money on. So, we took a get-away weekend and he surpised me with a new fishing rod & a pair of earings instead. We still talk about that weekend.
Reply #2 from JoeUser Forums Top
I think it is very sweet, romantic and sentimental to not want to replace your original wedding set. It's a symbol and I think it's just a matter of sentimentality. Some people attach deep meaning to the symbolism of the actual ring that you exchanged on your wedding day and some people though the feelings are still there for the person don't attach those feelings to a ring.

I say have him buy you a huge, honking, just because I love you, right hand ring. It sounds like you are too sentimental to give up your original set and personally, I think that is very romantic. It's not the ring, it's the feelings and history behind the ring.
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Reply #3 from JoeUser Forums Top
My wife and I both upgraded along the way. I was much poorer when we got married than I have been along the way. Our wedding bands were plain gold though, (or so I recall), it was her engagement ring that had the rock. We've upgraded all of them, though we kept the plain bands (both for sentimental reasons and because they weren't of any real value when trading up/in).

We have not upgraded the upgrades though, and don't intend to. Those are the rings we consider our real wedding set.
Reply #4 from JoeUser Forums Top
I am an old softy.  I keep the original.  I may buy her more rings, but they will not replace the first 2.
Reply #5 from JoeUser Forums Top
I have a cheap band from our poor starving private days. Since then we have bought "pretty" bands for me to wear. They were a gift for our 3 year anniversary when we had a "church" ceremony. I will change them out, they have a special memory attatched to them of my husband's love for me, but the original $50 ring will always stay.

I do have a friend who lost her original rings when she took them off during her pregnancy. So now she buys really big, really fake rings and wears them for a year or so and then replaces them. She was so upset by losing the original, that she didn't want to ever worry about it again. She says the rings remind her that nothing is permanent....except their love.
Reply #6 from JoeUser Forums Top
Not a chance that I would replace my ring. I might ask for another, but this one's too special.
Reply #7 from JoeUser Forums Top

I have other rings than my original wedding and engagement rings, but none of them are an "upgrade" and I'd never replace my original ones.  I also would never "upgrade" the stone in my original engagement ring even though it is very little.  It reminds me of where we were when we were married. 

Of course, I've never really cared that much for huge rings.  They just get snagged on stuff and their just another thing to worry about losing.

Reply #8 from JoeUser Forums Top
I don't get it . Why not just get other rings and keep the wedding ring. You could have a ring that says Debbie.
Reply #10 from JoeUser Forums Top
What kind of parent lets their 9 year old son run hog wild on a blog site? (ducks)
Reply #11 from JoeUser Forums Top
She is in the hospital.


OMG, OMG! Excellent!!!
Reply #12 from JoeUser Forums Top
WOO HOO!

Why aren't you there?

Or are you blogging from labor and delivery?

Fast and Healthy delivery Jill!
Reply #13 from JoeUser Forums Top
What kind of parent lets their 9 year old son run hog wild on a blog site? (ducks)


And what's with all them frogs? LOL.

Seriously, Brad, nice to see another generation of Wardells blogging. And Alex, keep plugging away. Good to see you blogging.

Keep us up to date on the arrival of the newest Wardell!
Reply #14 from JoeUser Forums Top
OMG, OMG! Excellent!!!


I wish Tex. Just more observation due to high BP. The good news is, I don't have preeclampsia. The bad news is they won't induce even though they don't know what is causing the BP problems. So I'm back home now being a couch potato waiting for something to happen.

My crazy frogs are taking good care of me in the meantime.
Reply #15 from JoeUser Forums Top
And what's with all them frogs?


I like frogs.

What kind of parent lets their 9 year old son run hog wild on a blog site? (ducks)


The same one who left me home with my whiney cousin and crazy nana (Grandma Towne).

Reply #16 from JoeUser Forums Top

My crazy frogs are taking good care of me in the meantime.

That is good!  Frogs are good!  I never met one I did not like.

Reply #17 from JoeUser Forums Top
That is good! Frogs are good! I never met one I did not like.


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Reply #18 from JoeUser Forums Top
You could always wear your original wedding band on a chain, if you want to wear something a little flashier. I think most people don't even think about it, like the ring becomes part of your finger. If only more people would get "attached" to the meaning behind the ring, not the object, it would be a better world. Many people start out with what they can afford (if anything at all). A very inexpensive ring can actually be unsafe (if it gets crushed), or might not be practical at all (no matter how sturdy) in some work environments.
Reply #19 from JoeUser Forums Top
I wear an anniversary ring with channel set diamonds in the band. I am very rough on rings and my wedding set is all pronged. I was always knocking a diamond out so I stopped wearing them. Thus my husband bought me an anniversary ring with stones I can't knock out!

I think my husband is more attached to my original rings than I am. I once talked about upgrading to a nice channel set and just trading my original set in...I have boys (so no daughters who would want my jewelry someday) and I don't really wear my original set...but he was having none of it.

I really try not to let myself get attached to anything material. It's just stuff and I don't ever want "stuff" to own any part of my heart. I love my husband and I love what the rings stand for...but they are not my marriage.

I know that's an odd ball thing because most all the women I know cherish their rings.
Reply #20 from JoeUser Forums Top
Too materialistic in my worthless opinion. The value of a wedding band is in what it symbolizes, not it's insurable worth. A cigar band could be a valued treasure if the right sentiment is attached to it.
Reply #21 from JoeUser Forums Top
A cigar band could be a valued treasure if the right sentiment is attached to it.


I totally agree. I'm really not a materialistic person. How much something costs has no baring on how special it is in my book.

I do cherish my rings and only take them off to put lotion on or clean them. They have made their mark in my finger. I feel naked without them. I don't ever intend on replacing them.

Adding an anniversary band some day doesn't sound bad though