dharmagrl

Join Date 02/2004

There he goes again

Dave's leaving again.

He's off to the NCO Academy for 6 weeks at the start of November. He SHOULD be home a couple of days before Christmas....but I'm not holding my breath. He'll also re-deploy next spring to the desert for at least another 6 months.

I knew this life was going to be hard, but this.....this is getting ridiculous. The way things are going he's going to be gone more than he's home (home for 5 months, deployed the rest of the time, according to my sources - who are VERY reliable).

I'm going to go and cry now.

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You know that we are here for you Karen... whenever you need a shoulder to cry on.
I will pray for Dave's safety.

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You know that we are here for you Karen... whenever you need a shoulder to cry on.

I know, and thank you. It just sucks, y'know? Having to spend holidays and birthdays without him, having to be mom AND dad for the kids and having to take care of EVERYTHING by myself. It seems that it's never going to end...he always comes home with the expectations of being home for a year or more, and we always get shot down. He's been back less than 3 months, and they're sending him off AGAIN. Then he'll come back for another 3 months, and they'll ship him to Iraq for ANOTHER 6 months.

I've about had enough, and he has too.

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use the strenght that has sustained you D, a quick cry and then onward.

HUG..

elie MM

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I have a couple of shoulders you can borrow. Sorry. I know in a way you dont, but dont in the way you do.

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I symapthize. Matt and I just had the turning point where we were together more than we wer apart...and next year we will be in the negative again. Sigh. We understand and are always here to support you!

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My sympathies - I am amazed that you endure this. God bless. Shalom.

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Karen, I'm so sorry that you have to endure all this hardship. Believe me, I understand at least part of it. I was a single parent for most of my kids' growing up years. It's really hard. It's sometimes overwhelming. We are here for you if you need us. At least, I am.

I'm going back to work tomorrow, though, so daytime I'm not available. I'll be dragging my sorry ass, or shall I say, casted leg, around the office, and I am sick of this. I'm sick of breaking bones. I'm sick of injuries and illnesses and all this shit. At least, my kids are grown, so I don't need to chase after them. *sigh*

Hang tough.......

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soooooooooo sorry Dharma.......

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use the strenght that has sustained you D, a quick cry and then onward.

That's what I always do, MM. Have a good cry, feel sorry for myself, then press on. I'm just getting worn down by this constant separation...

I have a couple of shoulders you can borrow.

Thank you, I might just take you up on that.

Matt and I just had the turning point where we were together more than we wer apart...and next year we will be in the negative again. Sigh.

I know how THAT feels, and it sucks.

I am amazed that you endure this

Sometimes, dude, I'm amazed myself.

We are here for you if you need us. At least, I am.

Thank you...that's very meaningful to me.

I am sick of this. I'm sick of breaking bones. I'm sick of injuries and illnesses and all this shit.

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soooooooooo sorry Dharma.......

Thanks, Trudy...I'll be ok. I just have to look forward to Christmas and having him home for at least ONE of the holidays.

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Sorry. S' part of why I got out, very hard on the spouse.

Also after crying, I find that beating up a pillow doesn't work for me, but stabbing one or a box over and over with a kitchen knife makes me feel worlds better. A little psycho, but it helps. Oh yeah, and don't try this on the bed.

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Thank you, I might just take you up on that.

The offer has no expiration.

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((((((((((((((((((((Karen))))))))))))))))))))))) I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how difficult it must be to transition in and out of being together. I can sympathize with single parenting, but it's even more different for you because you're NOT single, and shouldn't have to parent alone so much. I'll be praying that Dave will be home for Christmas.

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Hopefully the time will pass quickly, and with safety for your significant other.

Separation is never easy, but it can make you appreciate each other more when you have time together. Try to bear with it, and remember it's hard on him too. Let him know you care, and that things will work out for both of you. It'll help make things easier on him, and let him keep his mind on his job (and keeping himself safe). When you get to talk to him, tell him you miss him, but you know the time will pass quickly and you'll see him soon. And tell yourself all of those things too so you can keep your sanity.

And finally, as noted above, tell us (your friends at JoeUser) how things are going too and let us help get you through it.

Oh, one more thing, pass along our greatest respect and admiration for his service, and accept some of that yourself for the sacrifice you are making. Though it never gets said enough, we (not just the Joe and Jill users out here, but the U.S. citizens in general) do appreciate what our troops and their families and loved ones do for all of us.

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