Seriously, it's been my experience that women tend to be better at the whole "intimacy" thing than men do. I get the distinct impression, both from history and my own personal life experiences, that one vital role women play in society is to "civilize" the men they interact with.
I know this makes me sound horribly bigoted and sexist. No matter how I sound, though, I assure that I am not. It's obvious that women differ from men in many profound ways--physically, biochemically, emotionally, probably spiritually, too. There seems to be a certain "complementarity" between the two genders, that contributes to the fulfilment of heterosexual relatiionships at all levels. Whether or not homosexual relationships are able to replace this inter-gender complementarity with something equally healthy and successful, I don't know.
There's a lot of anecdotal evidence to support such a claim, but there's also a lot of statistical evidence to refute it, I think.
Anyway, phoenixboi, I wish you success in every good thing you set out to do. Certainly, intimate and fulfilling gay relationships are possible. You deserve nothing less, and I hope you get one.
