Save up more shineys. It's just like going out to a bar. She won't talk to you if U don't has da benjamins.
lol. I see your point but that has not always been the case for me. I usually have more than enough chedda and to spare--and I still get shined. However, I do persist. I bugged my wife until she broke down and went out with me. On 2 occasions I have bugged a group of NPC's with a champion leader relentlessly as though it was my one shot with Beyoncé. They eventually relented and joined my cause. There is alot to be said for persistence. Hopefully, this is not a bug. Getting a group with great stats is an exciting and unexpected perk.
PS My next Sov.....I shall dub her Sasha Fierce