The AI players offer to gang up often enough anyways, so if you are talking to them, chances are good that 'Let's gang up on the Gildar' will show up before the 99 turns are up...
So keep the 99 turns in place, but keep the AI offers as pretty common. This seems a little too random though.
If you could 'milk' the AI player into the gang up offer over a few turns, that might be more interesting.
I.E. First conversation, you state: "Those Gildar are really powerful. I'm concerned."
Next conversation a few turns later, you state: "Those Gildar continue to build up their armies. They could hurt us given the chance"
A few turns later, you state: "The Gildar have become very powerful. We may have to deal with them soon, although right now my hands are tied".
A turn or two later, the AI drops a line, stating: "The Gildar must be stoppped! Let us join forces and wipe them out!".