To All, and to original author;
Speaking from the perspective of someone who has lied (everyone has) but also on a more personal note someone who has lied to their wife (the above original author) I cannot completely say why someone would do this. I cannot say why I have done it. At certain times, especially difficult times, it has been too difficult for me to be a bearer of bad news, although she has proven she can handle anything. She is a strong, wonderful person, someone I have proven unworthy of. However that has been one of the most marvelous things I love about her, the fact that she proves her strength and resilency. I have feared she cannot handle bad news, so I lie, or ommit, as to not compound the current pain or frustration. However that has proven to be evidence of my cowardice, more then me "sparing" her pain. She has proven to be stronger then I, or many people, give her credit for. So this can be my only, although admittedly very partial explanation for lying. It's rarely to spare someone else, because they, as my wife has proven can handle the situation, it is because the speaker, the holder of the truth, is too afraid to reveal it. This is something, a very valuable truth that I have come to realize, much in part to this discussion about the truth, and what can and cannot constitute reasons for lying. I should never have lied to her, because I respect her, but that is the reason, I didn't respect her strength. For that I was very wrong, and very dissapointed in myself. I shall never make that mistake again.
Sincerely,
Mr. Right (but not all the time)
