I dont know about you, but for me, happiness comes first in my life. For me to be happy i need to be able to do what i want-for instance, hanging out with friends when i feel stressed. one of my biggest peeves is when those friends put obligations before their own happiness. When someone complaines to me about having too much homework-so much so that they wont even take a break on a SATURDAY NIGHT-I get rather annoyed. i think that they are going to end up doing more harm than good and become depressed. Not only are they taking away from themselves, but their friends as well. If I call person A to hang out a few times a week and the only response i get is "no...i have homework" isn't it reasonable for me to get weary of trying and end up not calling so often? The next thing i know, person A is telling me that nobody calls, and they are missing out on everything that happens in the group. I can't help but say it is their fault, and i know im not wrong in saying this but i can't help but feel bad about it. Person A knows they are loved and their friends would love to see more of them, but they still feel alone. I just wish they could see that getting 100% isn't always the most important goal in life. just today i told person A that we miss them, its too bad we dont see more of them...the response? "well, I'll be successful." How i measure success is by happiness-not just in the future, but along the way as well. Am I wrong in assuming that with out friends, family and those who love you, you will never be succesful? Are these not the things that make for true happiness? And without contact and bonding, is it true that these relationships suffer? This is what I put first-more important than getting an A on a math test or getting all of my homework done. I do my best to be open to my friends and a shoulder to cry on-I can only hope they would do the same for me.