My daughter had a freind over to hang out with this afternoon.

This girl is a very nice kid.  She and my daughter have attended the same school for a few years, but they moved in different circles and never had much to do with each other until fairly recently.  Shea saw this girl (we'll call her A) being bullied online by some other girls in her grade and she stepped in and came to A's defense.  Shea and A have been talking ever since, but today was the first day A had ever been to our home to spend time with Shea.

Before A come over, they had figured out what they were going to do with their time: experiment with makeup.  I asked A to make sure her mother was cool with that.  When A's dad dropped her off, my husband went out and introduced himself and again asked if it was ok that A and Shea did each other's makeup.  Her dad said something like 'it'll all wash off' and was perfectly happy to leave A here with Shea.

They had a blast, fooling around with eyeliner and mascara.  A asked me to show her how to apply it correctly, and then they bother asked if I'd take them to the BX.  A had her allowance and wanted to buy some eyeliner and shadow of her own.  Again, I asked if it was ok with her mother that she buy that kind of thing, and she said yes. So, I helped her choose some cosmetics and she and Shea giggled over boys the entire time we were at the store.  'A' really had fun, and it was good for Shea to be spending time with someone out of her normal circle of friends.

Then A's mother showed up to take her home.  "I head they went and got eye makeup" she said, glaring at me.  I told her that yes, we did some shopping and that I explained to A that too much makeup at her age isn't a good thing; that it's ok to experiment in the house but that it's not appropriate to wear it to school. "She's not allowed to wear makup until she's 16" she snipped back at me, and she told A to get in the car and they left.

I'm a little confused.  See, I get the feeling that she's pissed off at me for allowing her child to play with eyeliner.  I asked A BEFORE she came over to check with her mother that it was ok to wear it. She said it was ok with her.  When she showed up, my husband asked her dad if it was ok for her to do it. He said that it would "wash off" - he could have said "no".    Before we went to the store, A called her mother and told her where we were going and what she was going to do, and her mother never once asked to speak to me to tell me that no, her child wasn't allowed to wear makeup.  It's not as if we took A's word for it, we asked her dad.....I feel like we did everything we could to make sure that A wasn't going to do anything her parent's didn't approve of whilst she was here. 

As far as I'm concerned, I did everything I should have done.  I made sure that at least one of her parent's KNEW what they were going to do when they were here, and I gave them the opportunity to say 'No, I'd prefer that my child didn't do that'.  They never took that opportunity.  In fact, when A called her mother to tell her that we were going to the store and that she was wearing eyeliner, I overheard what her mother said "hope that you don't run into anyone we know, hahahaha".

Update: apparently, A's mother is offended by our (Dave and mine) tattoos.  Because we have tattoos and I wear makeup, we're "bad" people.

*shakes head in disbelief*

That makes me sad.